Yes, I’m a girl and I get an itch for advice columnists now and again. So Glenn Reynolds sucked me into watching Dr. Helen’s interview with Amy Alkon wherein these 2 advice columnists work very hard to hiply not give out any advice other than “be nice to each other”.
Which is good advice. However…….
On hookups: they both think they’re great. Now watch the video. Ladies, are hookups still great when done between 2 drunken strangers? I mean seriously, watch the video. The hookup couples are stumbling, yes stumbling, drunk. Did he check to confirm she uses birth control? Or is not psycho? Did she check to confirm he’s putting that condom on correctly and that he’s not psycho? That’s just the basics.
On having sex with your spouse when you don’t want to: They compare it to him changing a tire for you. Huh? How about if we compare it to the rule of any living together relationship.
The rule is: He who has the lesser requirement must step up to meet the greater in most instances in order to keep harmony.
In other words, if you’re sloppier, then he is – you’re going to have to be tidier. If you’re less fussy about weeds in the yard, harmony requires that you pull a few. And if you want sex less than you’re partner, do it more than you would like to anyway.
The rule is not a rule of payments, as in: this chore of changing the tire, gets this reward of a roll in the sack.
And feminism being a bane to men’s existence? I hardly think so. Feminism brought men the “hookup” for one. And less stress about providing for the family. And more acceptance of fatherly time/love/effort towards his children. Feminism can and is a pain the patooty but if it has caused men to lose their balls, well, I hate to say it, but come on…..are you really going to blame girls for that??
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